Quite insightful and largely true.

I find it rather amusing that people think just because they seem to be nice and largely unobtrusive towards people, good things should happen to them.

Being nice has nothing to do with being yourself, its mostly a pretense as you said to find attention.

To put it in a nutshell, being nice has nothing to do with being competent. And everything in life from love to work to fun involves some degree of unstated comepetence. So if you got no competence then no use being just nice.

women who *always* seek direction,compromise and devote themselves to the extent of losing their identity.

May be these women should be paired with the *Nice guy* I prefer women who have *their* own identity. Only insecure guys would not want their women to speak their minds

I would admit that the *self pity* & *niceness* factor is very squeamish.

I wonder if men felt the same for women who *always* seek direction,compromise and devote themselves to the extent of losing their identity.

Anything read twice, is an insult.

> You don’t have to be an ego-inflated, arrogant jerk. You just have to LIKE yourself.

"I’m comfortable with who I am" (as said with, half a foot of hair, unshaven beard and twenty kilos of paunch).

The problem, to start with, is in the popular definiton of nice guy. More accurately, in the difference between good and nice. Nice guy has become a euphemism for a human doormat, unretaliating and always co-operating.

And as far as I can, I try to kick some sense into quote-unquote nice guys whenever I meet them. Painful for them maybe, but it’s an education they sorely need.