Comments on: Parenting dilemma http://tariquesani.net/blog/2007/09/15/parenting-dilemma/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=parenting-dilemma from Live Journal to here... Wed, 08 Feb 2012 15:22:30 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: tariquesani http://tariquesani.net/blog/2007/09/15/parenting-dilemma/#comment-2894 tariquesani Mon, 17 Sep 2007 05:30:11 +0000 http://tarique.sanisoft.com/lj/?p=684#comment-2894 <p>Thanks - over the weekend some more torrid things were discovered (by the parents of the two in question). </p> <p>Since this went much beyond giving in to temptation in the spur of moment - we feel it is best that Aasim stays away from them at least for now.... and we didn't have to tell Aasim that, he is coping pretty well</p> Thanks – over the weekend some more torrid things were discovered (by the parents of the two in question).

Since this went much beyond giving in to temptation in the spur of moment – we feel it is best that Aasim stays away from them at least for now…. and we didn’t have to tell Aasim that, he is coping pretty well

]]> By: spykeraven http://tariquesani.net/blog/2007/09/15/parenting-dilemma/#comment-2893 spykeraven Sun, 16 Sep 2007 08:53:20 +0000 http://tarique.sanisoft.com/lj/?p=684#comment-2893 <p>Not sure if this is any use, but how about: "Some times people make mistakes. They do the wrong thing. It's up to you to decide if you can still be friends knowing what they did - but if they now understand what they did was wrong and are sorry, perhaps you can give them another chance."</p> Not sure if this is any use, but how about: “Some times people make mistakes. They do the wrong thing. It’s up to you to decide if you can still be friends knowing what they did – but if they now understand what they did was wrong and are sorry, perhaps you can give them another chance.”

]]> By: tariquesani http://tariquesani.net/blog/2007/09/15/parenting-dilemma/#comment-2892 tariquesani Sun, 16 Sep 2007 00:35:12 +0000 http://tarique.sanisoft.com/lj/?p=684#comment-2892 <p>Your justification does not really change anything for me and I would like to end this thread here.</p> Your justification does not really change anything for me and I would like to end this thread here.

]]> By: deponti http://tariquesani.net/blog/2007/09/15/parenting-dilemma/#comment-2891 deponti Sat, 15 Sep 2007 22:42:02 +0000 http://tarique.sanisoft.com/lj/?p=684#comment-2891 <p>I really don't see what is thoughtless or insensitive about that...it was not really a spelling mistake, but a word-substitution, and it was interesting to me because obviously, "flinching" was somewhere on your mind; perhaps Aasim flinching from the unpleasant truth that he had to face, or you flinching from having to explain some of the harsh realities of life to a young child; and it just happened to come out in the post. I actually did a lot of thinking after reading your post, and a long time ago, my child (and I) also faced a similar situation, of loss of trust in one of her friends....so I plead not guilty to both the charges that you have levelled.</p> I really don’t see what is thoughtless or insensitive about that…it was not really a spelling mistake, but a word-substitution, and it was interesting to me because obviously, “flinching” was somewhere on your mind; perhaps Aasim flinching from the unpleasant truth that he had to face, or you flinching from having to explain some of the harsh realities of life to a young child; and it just happened to come out in the post. I actually did a lot of thinking after reading your post, and a long time ago, my child (and I) also faced a similar situation, of loss of trust in one of her friends….so I plead not guilty to both the charges that you have levelled.

]]> By: tariquesani http://tariquesani.net/blog/2007/09/15/parenting-dilemma/#comment-2890 tariquesani Sat, 15 Sep 2007 20:08:34 +0000 http://tarique.sanisoft.com/lj/?p=684#comment-2890 <p>Unfortunately the two in question were the only two "friends" he had in this new locality and he was very happy that they were getting along so fabulously. But thanks for your insight... lets see how it goes.</p> Unfortunately the two in question were the only two “friends” he had in this new locality and he was very happy that they were getting along so fabulously. But thanks for your insight… lets see how it goes.

]]> By: tariquesani http://tariquesani.net/blog/2007/09/15/parenting-dilemma/#comment-2889 tariquesani Sat, 15 Sep 2007 20:04:48 +0000 http://tarique.sanisoft.com/lj/?p=684#comment-2889 <p>Thanks - something straight forward like this is what I think will work the best with a 10 year old.</p> Thanks – something straight forward like this is what I think will work the best with a 10 year old.

]]> By: tariquesani http://tariquesani.net/blog/2007/09/15/parenting-dilemma/#comment-2888 tariquesani Sat, 15 Sep 2007 20:02:58 +0000 http://tarique.sanisoft.com/lj/?p=684#comment-2888 <p>I guess we can only perhaps try teaching that to our children. We have yet not perfected the technique.....</p> I guess we can only perhaps try teaching that to our children. We have yet not perfected the technique…..

]]> By: tariquesani http://tariquesani.net/blog/2007/09/15/parenting-dilemma/#comment-2887 tariquesani Sat, 15 Sep 2007 19:58:54 +0000 http://tarique.sanisoft.com/lj/?p=684#comment-2887 <p>Trying to correct my spellings is, I feel, one of the most thoughtless and insensitive things given the nature of my post :-/</p> <p>Thanks for your previous comment but I could have very well done without it if that would have avoided the rider which came with it.</p> Trying to correct my spellings is, I feel, one of the most thoughtless and insensitive things given the nature of my post :-/

Thanks for your previous comment but I could have very well done without it if that would have avoided the rider which came with it.

]]> By: achitnis http://tariquesani.net/blog/2007/09/15/parenting-dilemma/#comment-2886 achitnis Sat, 15 Sep 2007 09:15:40 +0000 http://tarique.sanisoft.com/lj/?p=684#comment-2886 <p>As a parent, I would be to teach him how to look out for signs of something not being right, recognizing the signs early, so that he doesn't get hurt by such "friends". It is no good telling him "this person is bad", because he may not understand that, and will just get confused (as in "but they are my friends"). Children cannot handle absolutes like that.</p> <p>You have to tell him what to look for in the future (such as someone taking off with something and not giving it back). That way, you are teaching him to be careful and aware of his surroundings, without necessarily getting him all paranoid about everyone around him.</p> As a parent, I would be to teach him how to look out for signs of something not being right, recognizing the signs early, so that he doesn’t get hurt by such “friends”. It is no good telling him “this person is bad”, because he may not understand that, and will just get confused (as in “but they are my friends”). Children cannot handle absolutes like that.

You have to tell him what to look for in the future (such as someone taking off with something and not giving it back). That way, you are teaching him to be careful and aware of his surroundings, without necessarily getting him all paranoid about everyone around him.

]]> By: n2kaja http://tariquesani.net/blog/2007/09/15/parenting-dilemma/#comment-2885 n2kaja Sat, 15 Sep 2007 09:02:34 +0000 http://tarique.sanisoft.com/lj/?p=684#comment-2885 <p>As much as we wish they were, not everyone is honest, sometimes friends do stupid things and don't value our friendship like they should.<br /> With hope they will understand it was wrong to take things that don't belong to them.</p> As much as we wish they were, not everyone is honest, sometimes friends do stupid things and don’t value our friendship like they should.
With hope they will understand it was wrong to take things that don’t belong to them.

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