A prayer and a desire

May 11th, 2004 42 Comments

Dil me sanam ki soorat
Aakhon me aashiqui de
Mere khuda mujhe tu
Ek aur zindagi de

Kaise karoon mohabbat
Do din ki zindagi me
Yeh din to beet jayenge
Yuhi hasi hasi me

Jee bharke pyaar karloon
Aisi mujhe khushi de
Mere khuda mujhe tu
Ek aur zindagi de

Sau saal tak sanam ki
Aakhon me doob jaoon
Sau saal aur ho to
Usko gale lagaoon

Sau saal phir milan ki
Duniya nayi nayi de
Mere khuda mujhe tu
Ek aur zindagi de

–Kaifi Aazmi

Ten years is a long time…. Ten years married to the same person seems longer!!! No, am wrong again. I still distinctly remember this day 10 years ago and each of the happenings as if it was yesterday, oh well almost…

That said I would like to share another secret, marriages don’t just last, you have to work hard for it and we are no exception. Being so strong willed and independent as we are, there are bound to be clashes, we knew that from the beginning though perhaps we did not realize that there will be moments so agonizing that we would wish that we can’t go on like this, but on the flip side 10 years ago we thought that the fire would be replaced by a warm glow of contentment – that has not happened either, the fire continues to burn just as passionately so much so that people say it is embarrassing for them at times :D

But if someone were to ask, have we matured in 10 years of our marriage? I would reply with an emphatic Yes!! We are a very close knit team whose strength is not unquestioning faith BUT unfettered communication, not combination of skills BUT complimenting of skills, not just love BUT also trust.

Then there is parenthood adding a whole new dimension to the array and equation. Aasim is a reflection of what we are and in many ways a mirror for us, he is ours but still not – we are just taking care, nurturing him for his world.

Yet 10 years are too short a time and that is why like the poet, I plead to God to grant me another life(time) so that I may love my beloved as much as I want to…

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42 Responses to “A prayer and a desire”

  1. nithya says:
    May 10, 2004 at 8:10 pm

    Dr Saahib… happy anniversary..
    May god give all that youll want and more…
    Have a nice day..

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  2. itsjoy says:
    May 10, 2004 at 10:17 pm

    congratulations to you and swati!

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  3. sidcarter says:
    May 10, 2004 at 10:39 pm

    Happy Anniversary. Incidentally, Today also happens to be Shubha’s Birthday…I think.

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  4. patrodz says:
    May 10, 2004 at 11:02 pm

    Congrats and a belated anniversary to Swati and you :-D

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  5. puttu says:
    May 10, 2004 at 11:04 pm

    This is a song in Phir Teri Kahaani Yaad Aayi..
    And Happy Anniversary.

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    • tariquesani says:
      May 10, 2004 at 11:29 pm

      This is a song in Phir Teri Kahaani Yaad Aayi..
      Bingo!!

      Yes, I had carried this album for Swati to Mumbai from Nagpur about a year before our marriage, we were talking some serious stuff (like how to blackmail our parents ;) when this song started playing… Modesty forbids writing the rest.

      Thanks for your wishes

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  6. geetanjali says:
    May 10, 2004 at 11:44 pm

    Happy Anniversery!!

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  7. anupma says:
    May 10, 2004 at 11:49 pm

    I have said this before (and more than once)

    I am a big fan of you two. Here is a couple that absolutely rocks.

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    • tariquesani says:
      May 11, 2004 at 12:02 am

      Re: I have said this before (and more than once)

      Here is a couple that absolutely rocks.
      Thats because we never tell people of the times when we hurl rocks, accusations and all sorts of animated language at each other :)

      That said – Thanks I am flattered.

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      • anupma says:
        May 11, 2004 at 10:00 pm

        Re: I have said this before (and more than once)

        >Thats because we never tell people of the times when we hurl rocks, accusations and all sorts of animated language at each other

        You never fail to remind us about this.

        According to me this is exactly what makes the relationship so special. Of course you argue and fight. In your own words, you are two strong individuals and individualists who speak their mind are bound to disagree. It is how you deal with these disagreements. Accept it, you two have a fan. :)

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  8. ashwinb says:
    May 11, 2004 at 12:40 am

    Beautiful. Serenely beautiful.

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  9. dhempe says:
    May 11, 2004 at 1:21 am

    Happy Anniversary to the Rocking couple ! :)

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  10. kaustubhhere says:
    May 11, 2004 at 2:27 am

    Congratulations and HAPPY ANNIVERSARY to both of you! :)

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  11. shradha says:
    May 11, 2004 at 2:29 am

    HAPPY (belated!) ANNIVERSARY!

    am touched beyond words.

    may your relationship continue blossoming with time :)

    Reply
  12. mona1610 says:
    May 11, 2004 at 4:26 am

    Congrats!!! 10 down, 100 up! :P

    a lil card from moi.. hope u like it…(& hoping harder the link opens!)

    Maktub!

    Reply
  13. aivalli says:
    May 11, 2004 at 4:37 am

    Wish you both a Happy Marriage Anniversary !

    -nerdy

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  14. brainz says:
    May 11, 2004 at 6:49 am

    w00t!

    Happy Anniversary!

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  15. mannu says:
    May 11, 2004 at 6:15 pm

    Well, I’m late, so I’ll wish you a Happy 11th Year!

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  16. laruth says:
    May 12, 2004 at 4:04 am

    Happy anniversary!

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  17. vaibhav says:
    May 12, 2004 at 9:54 am

    Belated happy aniversery.

    Reply
  1. trackbacks The anniversary of blah! at Tarique's Travails wrote:
    May 11, 2010 at 10:46 am

    [...] “Aren’t you two bored of each other?” The question took me by surprise! No it has never occurred to me that I will get bored of Swati, but then perhaps I am too naive when it comes to marital relationships. For me this is one relationship where things are in black and white without any intervening gray shades. The question however did make me ponder as to why it should be raised at all and I cringed. Today I don’t want to wade thru the dissatisfactions of others trying to find why I am not… Heh! even writing that sounds pretty stupid. The day marks 16 years of being married to Swati. I quoted Kaifi Azmi on our 10th anniversary [...]

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