Flirting and Dating mini-HOW-TO

Seeing the predicament of some of the younger geeks (boys all of them) at Bangalore I had joked that I will write a HOW-TO for them on flirting and dating, after coming back some events also made me consider the point seriously BUT when I got down to it and cut away all the fluff about how looks don’t really matter and how to be charming and which kind of girl etc etc it all boils down to a few simple lines

Will she go out with me – ASK
Will she like me – ASK
Is she already going around – ASK
Will she let me kiss (or fill in the blank with your preferred activity) – ASK

Don’t get stuck in the “what if …. …. ?” fill in the blank with your favorite dilemma

There is no fool like the one who never asked.

Lastly – Rejection from one does not mean rejection from all even if you *right now* feel she was *the* one

May be the ladies around will have some more things add to this but in my experience this should suffice in 99% of the cases

  • Very true..Shit Kallu and me wasted 2 years cos we were too shy to ASK..:D.

    • LOL!

      I got a 7 year headstart because I *wasn’t* 😉

      • Still am…

        • Presuming that your sentence concludes in …waiting

          So the question is what are you waiting for? New Year?

          🙂

    • Honestly – It would have never even dawned upon me to look at Swati as a potential soulmate had she not asked something outrageous from me!!

      Guess girls are better at doing it when they set their mind to it 😉

      • “Minds”???

        (gd&rvvvvvvf)

        • try as you might, you cant rvvvvvvf – not from me 😛

  • *May be* that helps these guys ..Until it reaches a point where what all they do is *ASK* .
    The title could be “Ask Ask till you succeed ” 😉 .

    • Hmmm… … May be your post typifies the problem of these boys – at times it is very difficult to understand what a lady really wants to say!!!

      So if you will indulge us – Are you complaining that boys dont do anything BUT “ASK”? and stating that only *may be* it will help them in certain situations?

      OR you are saying – no problem keep asking till you succeed. 😉

      • Oops !

        Excuse me for the delay. somehow missed this mail !
        I want to say that just *ASK*ing is not the solution to all the problems .


        So if you will indulge us – Are you complaining that boys dont do anything BUT “ASK”? and stating that only *may be* it will help them in certain situations?

        Exactly !! but these type of guys then diminsh the chances of others too …
        They shud *ASK* only after some thinking and only if they expect a positive response .
        any more clarifications ?

        • Re: Oops !

          Thanks for replying I was most disappointed not hearing on this one
          🙂

          Exactly !! but these type of guys then diminsh the chances of others
          too …

          Yes! clarifications are indeed need for this sentence – you will be doing
          gross injustice to the entire female fraternity if you say that women (girls?)
          tend to think all men are alike. Please prove me wrong and explain “they
          diminish the chances of others too…          “

          I tend to disagree with you on the ASKing “only if they expect a positive
          response          ” this just throws them back into the vicious cycle not asking
          for the fear of rejection.

          Heck – it is just a date we are talking about here Right?  Not about
          spending rest of the life… … There are still times when I am not 100%
          sure about this one,  But again even here asking gives me a headstart
          – so what if I have to at times do it over IM and LJ 😉

          • Re: Oops !

            I am not saying that women tend to take all men alike .

            But they are aware of common set of qualities of the male kingdom .And it does differ on individual experiences.they wish to stick to those qualities until they find that *someone* to defy. And probably this is true for men too.

            even if you *right now* feel she was *the* one
            this means that we are not *just* talking about dating and flirting .

            • Re: Oops !

              this means that we are not *just* talking about dating and flirting.

              Without trying to be rude I would like to say that you are being a bit too presumtive.

              • Re: Oops !

                Did I sound so ? I did’nt intend to 🙂

  • Whoa!

    • That is a typical female response – Elaborate, speak out, say what you want !!!

      • The HOW-TO is inspirational!

  • Hummm, “ASK” –> not a very easy thing.
    But I wonder why girls never “ASK” anyway :).
    Well I will remember your HOW-TO , will try to “ASK” from now on :).

    • “ASK” would be an easy task if you would have faith in yourself!! Also like I said don’t let rejection OR fear of rejection bog you down.

      IME only Girls with exceptional qualities ASK – thats how, to repeat, I got myself a wife 🙂

      Lastly the emphasis is *ASK* don’t try to *PROBE* because there is no ambiguity in ASKing and it cannot be misconstrued “Hey you know what! he tried to rape me !!” cannot happen when you ASK

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